Fix `moderncsqlite` errors and rebase onto `main` (#2832)

This is #2819 but rebased on latest `main`. This PR is against main too
as opposed to the `moderncsqlite` branch.

The main change here is simply:

```go
// add query parameters to the dsn
if strings.Contains(dsn, "?") {
	dsn += "&"
} else {
	dsn += "?"
}

// wait some time before erroring if the db is locked
// https://gitlab.com/cznic/sqlite/-/issues/106#note_1058094993
dsn += "_pragma=busy_timeout%3d10000"
```

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Co-authored-by: Neil Alexander <neilalexander@users.noreply.github.com>

1 files changed, 1 insertions, 1 deletions

diff --git a/test/db.go b/test/db.go
index c7cb919f..17f637e1 100644
--- a/test/db.go
+++ b/test/db.go
@@ -176,7 +176,7 @@ func WithAllDatabases(t *testing.T, testFn func(t *testing.T, db DBType)) {
 	for dbName, dbType := range dbs {
 		dbt := dbType
 		t.Run(dbName, func(tt *testing.T) {
-			tt.Parallel()
+			//tt.Parallel()
 			testFn(tt, dbt)
 		})
 	}